About lillian

Master of Social Work; Louisiana State University, 2017

Bachelor of Arts in Art History; Louisiana State University, 1989

Telehealth Certified

Certified Imago Therapist, EMDR Trained, Crisis Intervention

"I am a counselor who helps women understand and transform the patterns that keep them feeling stuck in relationships and disconnected from themselves.

A central focus of my work is helping clients recognize and stop self-abandonment. Many of us have learned to leave ourselves—to disconnect from our feelings, needs, preferences, bodies, and inner knowing—in order to belong, avoid conflict, gain approval, or care for others. Our culture often reinforces these patterns by rewarding self-sacrifice, productivity, caretaking, and putting others’ needs before our own.

I help clients understand codependency as the ways we attempt to manage our own emotional states or the emotional states of others through control, people-pleasing, rescuing, caretaking, fawning, and self-abandonment. Together, we learn to recognize these patterns with curiosity and compassion rather than shame.

I believe that not abandoning yourself is a profound act of love. Learning to listen to yourself, honor your feelings and needs, trust your inner experience, and remain connected to yourself—even in relationship with others—is an essential part of healing.

Once clients have developed a deeper understanding of their patterns and established a sense of safety, I incorporate somatic and experiential work, including Focusing, to help them attend to what is being held in the body. Insight alone is often not enough. The body carries experiences, emotions, and survival strategies that may need space, attention, and compassion in order to transform. 

My approach integrates relational insight, depth psychology, and somatic awareness. I believe healing is a process of returning home to ourselves—releasing old strategies of self-abandonment and learning that we can love others deeply without leaving ourselves behind. 

I work exclusively with women. I help women recognize the ways our culture teaches us to abandon ourselves in the name of being loving, accommodating, successful, or “good”—and support them in creating relationships and lives that don’t require self-betrayal.